Is your Marriage as Good, as it Looks on Facebook?
October 25, 2016
A Map-my-run popped up on Facebook; I realized, Nancy’s not home, she went for a walk/run. Nancy walks at a joggers pace which Map-my-Run documents. Wallah, she soon appeared on the porch. Sometimes we do communicate through Facebook without talking. I go to begin a story and Nancy says I know I saw your post. Public communication isn’t the real communication a couple needs. It is only the surface. I do think we should try a dialog through chat sometime, possibly more effective than our attempts at serious dialog face to face. She seems totally lacking in mind reading abilities, and I prefer to stay silent if possible.
Silence need not be broken -- not my photo, not on my FB feed
Is our marriage as it appears on Facebook, reality or a reality show? If you are authentic in life and marriage it will be visible to others. If you are not, no one can hide it on Facebook or in real life. Nancy often has a profile picture with us as a couple at a good moment in our lives. At any given time I might look at it and think our relationship is not as close as it was at that moment. I know it will be again in the future. Also Facebook allows me, even if she is away on a trip to post a photo, joke, or quip I know will make her smile when she sees it. I have a new and wonderful daughter in law, Laura, yes everyone knows all about the wedding, it was documented on Facebook. Her parents thought my Charred Chicken Tortilla Soup story was hilarious. First I put it on a Facebook post then as a web-blog story. Brenda commented it was so funny she shared it with friends, but she was glad I wasn’t her husband. Maybe, I should revise my answer; yes sometimes my marriage is even better than it appears on Facebook. Although I am not sure Nancy actually will read my stories on my web/blog anymore, I keep writing them because I think I should express my thoughts and feelings. If Nancy reads this story, she may be reconsidering the assumed advantages of good communication between couples. Not knowing her husband’s feelings may not be so bad after all; a stoic silent husband could have definite advantages.
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