Safe
A good relationship is based on trust. Trust relies on being safe, feeling safe to speak truthfully, laugh spontaneously, and simply react as you feel. Safe is made better by being with your partner, when being together makes you feel at home and enjoy the time you spend together. Being safe in the company of your partner allows you to endure anything. I can even endure shopping, as long as, I am allowed to hang out at the coffee shop. Nancy can come get me before we leave.
Coffee and wi fi can sustain me for hours especially with an outlet
Safe means when you are stressed out, frustrated by people, and tired, being together makes it better. Being together is comforting, lowers the blood pressure, and relaxes the muscles. When we get home or meet our spouse we feel comfort, a welcome, it relieves our frazzledness. It may mean we need to feel loved, it may be that we can simply relax, and not feel like we are competing or being judged. We are together; we can turn off the performance switch.
Safe means we can reveal our thoughts and feelings. We can share our dreams and feel safe that we will not be ridiculed. Actually it is our aspirations, our dreams that we hold most closely. It is our strength when we are challenged by life. We work our way through a tough point because we have a dream, a belief in the future, a commitment to something beyond the moment. This means we share these with some one else very cautiously. We must feel safe because the one we love and open up to can hurt us the most. Sharing your dreams or hopes is the most frightening. You have to have a high level of safety with your spouse. ...
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