Turning the Frantic Family into A Fulfilling Family
Here is everything I know about being a good parent in one paragraph.
Be authentic; your kids already know everything about you, so just be yourself. Don’t expect your son to be a basketball star if you’re 5’9” and can’t dribble with your left hand. You have to react naturally as life unfolds, be yourself.
You must respect your children as the individual people that they are. Each of your children deserves equal respect; they do not deserve equal choices. In the family You are the parents, the adults, sometimes you just have to say you are going to school, you Will show up and help as you promised.
Because, If you don’t act like the adults who will?
You need your whole family grandparents, aunt-uncles-cousins and good friends being in a loving community allow growing children to learn insights into themselves and into you.
Be consistent children need structure; they need to know what is allowed, what is not. Back up your spouse, it is better to collaborate and work out rules ahead of time. But if you walk in and a defiant child says “Mom, said I have to stand on my head in the corner until my face turns blue.”
Your response must be “go stand on your head in the corner.” Then go find your wife and ask her why she has lost her mind?